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Q: Is it true any sorority is better than no sorority? I’ve wanted to be in a sorority since my Sophomore year and I will finally be a freshman next year. I plan to rush but I’m worried I will only get a bid from one sorority. This sorority has a really bad roe around my town (I live in the town I’m going to school in) and some friends have considered disaffiliating because of issues. Also, rumors are they take the “weird girls” who rush? What is your opinion? Thanks!
A: First of all don’t limit yourself to only one sorority possibility! The whole point of recruitment is to explore ALL your options. Even if your hometown friends have joined this one particular chapter, that doesn’t mean you have to. Try your best to not pledge a sorority with a bad reputation. Joining a troubled chapter from day one will most likely result in more troubles for you. Chapters can be improved and make a turn around with hard work by the members, but your goal should be to pledge a happy and healthy sisterhood!
Also try to ignore rumors, gossip and other girl’s opinions as you experience rush. Please make up your own mind in every way. The gossip may be true, but see for yourself if you fit in with each and every sorority. If you are faced with a difficult choice, then you will have to do some soul searching to determine if "a sorority is better than no sorority." Here are some questions to ask yourself if it comes to that ~
- Can I see myself making friends with some of the sisters and having a nice time, if not my dream experience?
- Do I have any options to rush again in the future instead of joining a chapter I really don’t fit in with?
- How serious/true is the bad reputation and can it be mended?
- Do the other PNMs look like a decent group and a fresh start for the chapter?
- Am I eager to get involved in greek life in general and can this sorority provide me with lots of opportunities?
All sororities basically do the same things ~ socialize, volunteer, perform rituals, offer leadership opportunities, etc… You can be happy in a range of chapters depending on your flexibility and adaptability. Please don’t throw away a perfectly decent sorority just because it isn’t #1 on campus, or other people think it’s odd. On the other hand, if you are a terrible mis-match there is only so far you can go to force a square peg into a round hole. Sometimes you just can’t see yourself joining XYZ chapter no matter what.
More often than not PNMs drop out too quickly and they could make it work with some effort. Only your heart, your head and your gut will be able to tell you when Pref Night comes! Be extra thoughtful, talk to your Recruitment Counselor and at the same time trust your inner instincts. Some sorority MAY be better than no sorority ~ but only you will know for sure when you get there! xoxo ;)