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☀ No-Melt Make-Up & Fashion Tips for a HOT Recruitment! ☀

"Fall" sorority recruitment is summertime Hot, Hot, Hot! How does a PNM, or sorority sister, stay fresh and fabulous all day in the heat? Avoid melting make-up, smeared eyeliner, sweaty fashions and sunburned skin. Check out these sorority sugar warm weather beauty tips and don’t be a recruitment hot mess!

☀ HOT Recruitment • Be Cool Beauty Tips:

  • Apply a light primer before applying your make-up. It provides a smooth base and helps cosmetics stay in place in hot weather.
  • Switch to lighter formulas. Sheer make-up will look and feel lighter and not turn cakey on a hot day. Use a tinted moisturizer with a light powder layered over it for a lighter look.
  • Lightly apply a powder bronzer only to the high points of your face, where the sun naturally hits you: forehead, cheek bones, chin and nose. Avoid the fake baked look of covering every inch of your face with a thick bronzer.
  • Stop shine and add glow with blotting papers. Eliminate sweaty shine in your T-zone by blotting with the cheap and easy papers. Then follow up with a dusting of pressed powder on your forehead, nose and chin. 
  • Lighten your lipstick. Dark, heavy lipstick can really get messy in hot and humid weather. Better to go with lighter shades and sheer formulas. Powder your lips before applying any lipstick.
  • Switch to an “invisible” lipliner to keep lipstick from bleeding into the skin around your lips. Applying concealer around the edges of your lips also fights lipstick “creep.”
  • Avoid using cream eye shadows. Creams will crease and glop in hot weather. Use an eyelid primer and dry powder formulas instead. 
  • Try a waterproof mascara. Today’s waterproof versions are better than before. Or, use your regular mascara and add a waterproof layer on the tips as a top coat. 
  • If you will be walking and standing in the sun between sorority houses, use a moisturizer with sunscreen built in. Or apply a light sunscreen formulated for faces. A SPF on your shoulders is also a good idea. Use an unscented formula. You don’t want to smell like a Pina Colada. 
  • Use a lightweight foundation and finish with a top coat of translucent powder. This is the best tactic to keep your foundation from melting. Heavy oil based cosmetics do not work well in the heat.
  • Use a waterproof eyeliner pencil.
  • Use a clean & clear antiperspirant to avoid white marks on your clothing and underarms. Or top coat your armpits with hairspray to keep deodorant from getting on your clothes. 
  • Be mindful of sweaty foot odor. Use a powder or foot spray if needed.
  • Apply a light coat of petroleum jelly on your teeth. It keeps your lips from sticking to your teeth and stops your lipstick from smudging on your teeth. And it fights against nervous cottonmouth too.
  • Use cheek stain as lip color, then top with lipgloss. The cheek stain will last for hours despite the heat, eating, or drinking. 
  • If you can, store your make-up in the refrigerator. The cosmetics will feel refreshingly cool and fresh when you apply them.

☀ HOT Recruitment • Be Cool Fashion Tips:

  • Wear natural fabrics in the earliest rounds. 100% cotton breathes the best when you are visiting 16 houses in the heat.
  • Avoid layers. Think basics ~ like just a sundress, or just a light shirt and shorts. 
  • Open sandals breath better than closed shoes. But no flip flops please.  
  • Avoid dark colors in the earlier rounds. Dark fashions absorb the sun’s rays and light colored clothing reflects it. 
  • Flowing skirts keep you cooler and the air circulating around your legs.
  • If you sweat in intimate places, use a panty liner to help control the moisture. Baby powder and Gold Bold can also help, but be mindful of weird odors. 
  • Light blue shows sweat more than any other color. Keep this in mind when shopping for rushwear.
  • Think twice about metallic accessories, which can really heat up in the hot sun. 
  • Use toupee or wig tape to keep your fashions in place. If your sundress is a little too revealing, or it slips & slides as you sweat, use a little tape to hold it in place. Double stick tape and spray craft glue also work well. Clear eyelash adhesive will hold a thin spaghetti strap in place.
  • If you are recruiting in a dry heat, remember to spray an anti-static guard on your dress. Hairspray will also reduce static cling.
  • Even though it’s hot and your dress is strapless ~ don’t go braless! Wear self-adhesive bra cups or a strapless bra. 

☀ General STAY COOL Tips:

  • During a break, run your wrists under cold water. It really helps!
  • Stay hydrated. Drink plenty of water. Stay away from sugary drinks, alcohol and caffeine. 
  • Eat light and healthy in hot weather. Avoid heavy proteins or junk food in the heat of the day. Salads, fruits and raw veggies are ideal. A cold soup is perfect for lunch instead of a big burger.
  • Acclimate yourself to the heat prior to recruitment. If you haven’t been outdoors much this summer, spend some time getting used to the temps before you arrive on campus. 

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any ideas for creative, fun ideas for questions to break the ice with pnms during recruitment?

Asked by
alpha-xixo

YES-YES-YES! I have several lists of creative questions for sisters to ask PNMs beyond "What’s your major?" They are geared towards learning more about a PNM’s personality and having fun at the same time. ;)

• 33 Questions to ASK PNMs

• 25 Interesting Questions to Ask PNMs During Rush

• Big/Little Speed Dating Questions (good for PNMs too!)

I'm thinking about rushing this coming fall (I'm an incoming freshman) at NYU. I know NYU's Greek life is 5% or less but nonetheless they do have Greek life. It seems interesting and I think I want to since it will give me a sense of community at a school that doesn't really have any. Anyways, I was just wondering if you knew (just on average) how much commitment sororities usually require because I am also doing a sport next year too and I want to know if I can do both. Thanks so much! :)

Asked by
empire-under-the-sun

I have a close friend who is in a sorority at NYU! I believe you could play a sport and be involved in greek life there. The sororities are active, but not at the level of a huge Southern chapter. You can balance your academics, activites and sorority membership. Even though the greek community is a small percentage at NYU, they still have all the sisterhood events, fundraising, rituals, formals and other “sugar” of sorority life. There will be mandatory chapter meetings and required service hours, but overall you should find enough flexibility to do your sport.

There are many very nice chapters NYU! With such an urban campus, pledging helps a new student like you find a community of friends. I encourage you to give recruitment a try! Ask the chapters about their time commitments and playing sports. I believe it can be done. And you may meet my friend who will be a Rho Gamma this fall for a second year! xoxo ;)

rush talk: how to handle PNM fear…

Q: I am rushing in the fall as a junior and am very anxious about it. I go to a school where the greek community is a huge part of campus activities and the rush process cuts a lot of girls. I am worried about going into rush and falling in love with a sorority and then not receiving a bid. I’m nervous about not receiving any bids because I waited so long to rush. I’m worried about going through rush and not being wanted by any of the houses.

A: Anxiety, fear, nervousness and stress are totally NORMAL for a PNM facing recruitment. You are being evaluated, it’s a competition and there are choices to be made on both sides of the process. Completely understandable. The fact that your greek community is large means more opportunities to join, not just more cuts. I rushed at ASU and it is huge. I saw it as having more more chances for a perfect fit. I would be much more nervous at a small school with only 2 houses. It’s all how you look at things! 

Focus on what you CAN control and let go of what you CAN’T control. There is no point in giving yourself an ulcer over things you cannot change or influence. Here is a quick list of things to latch on to, and things to release from your mind as recruitment draws near…………….

Aa a PNM, You CAN CONTROL:

  • How you present yourself
  • How you dress
  • How you are groomed
  • Your small talk skills
  • When & how you smile
  • Your use of polite manners
  • Your ability to ask intelligent questions
  • Your poise and grace
  • The ability to hide your nerves 
  • Your use of eye contact
  • The ability to connect quickly with others
  • How outgoing & bubbly you are
  • How friendly & charming you are
  • Your level of enthusiasm 
  • How many recommendation letters you have submitted 
  • The way your recruitment application is filled out
  • The quality of your PNM headshot
  • What subjects you talk about
  • How interesting you are
  • Your ability to remain positive 
  • Your stamina
  • Your thoughts and emotions 
  • Your chapter rankings in order

As a PNM, You CANNOT CONTROL: 

  • Your GPA once recruitment arrives - it is what it is
  • Your past high school/college experiences & leadership
  • Your hometown 
  • Family history or family drama - for better or worse
  • Legacy status - legacies were created before you were born
  • Sorority membership selection policies
  • Secret PNM rankings, cross cutting and other mysterious recruitment procedures
  • What each sorority thinks of you
  • How pretty or well dressed the other PNMs are
  • How connected the other PNMs are 
  • Your income level and/or family financial status
  • How attractive or intimidating the sorority sisters are
  • The atmosphere at each sorority house
  • Exactly “who” you speak to during rounds
  • The specific “type” of girl each chapter is looking for
  • How many legacies there are for each chapter
  • Other PNM’s opinions of each sorority
  • Which sorority offers you a bid

Basically, being more in command of your actions will help you feel less fearful. You can’t predict what other PNMs do, or what the sororities will decide. Box up everything on the CAN’T CONTROL list and put it aside in your mind. Let it go. Only be concerned with doing your personal BEST. That’s all anyone can do. The rest is up to fate and the greek gods! xoxo ;)

"Fate loves the fearless." ~ James Russell Lowell

"It is not enough to do your best; you must know what to do, and then do your best.” ~ W. Edwards Deming

i'm going through recruitment this fall as a sophomore and 2 of my very close best friends are in zeta. i've gone to a lot of their one on ones and think i have made a good impression on a bunch of the sisters. so they are my top choice but i'm open to others. i was just wondering how do i deal with talking to my friends during recruitment. they are my best friends and i don't think i can go 2 weeks with out talking to them

Asked by
okay-sj

You CAN’T talk to them during that time!!!! Their chapter can get in big trouble for dirty rushing and you can get in trouble as a PNM. Please DO NOT disregard the panhellenic rules. They cannot be seen as putting extra pressure on you or having undo influence. It’s really important for everyone involved that you honor the “quiet” zone right before and during rush. 

And what if after visiting all the houses you end up loving another chapter better? You cannot be having heart to heart talks with your ZTA girlfriends about your very personal recruitment decisions. THESE are the people you CAN talk to:

  • #1 ~ Your Rho Gamma/Gamma Chi/Recruitment Counselor. That’s what she’s there for. 
  • Your mom 
  • Your sister
  • A friend from home who does not attend your school
  • A non greek friend (but she probably won’t understand)
  • Your boyfriend (But be careful if he’s greek. You don’t want to feed the gossip mill)

Read an exciting thriller to occupy your mind, go to the gym more often, take a Zumba class, binge watch your favorite TV show online, get a head start on your fall studies, write poetry ~ do whatever you need to do during the recruitment time to occupy yourself. No gabbing with your sorority friends under any circumstances. It will all be worth it in the end! xoxo :)

I love your blog! i get the advice I need before I go greek in a few months. but do you know how I know I chose the right sorority because I'm kinda confused on the one I want to choose.

Asked by
chanel-chandelierss

You WON’T be confused when you get to the choosing part. After Pref Night, you will rank your remaining chapters in order. There will probably be 2 to choose from, maybe 3. After a week of experiencing all the sororities in a very intense way, you will certainly have a gut feeling about which one you prefer. It’s like dating two guys and liking one a little bit more. Your heart and mind will tell you what’s the right thing to do.

But keep in mind, the sororities ultimately select YOU to join. So I am hopeful that you like your 2nd choice as well, since you may receive a bid from them. Until you open that bid day envelope, you won’t know 100% for sure where you will be pledging. A portion of the selection process is out of your control. But if you make a strong connection with one or two chapters you are sure to make a happy match!

A satisfying greek life can be had in more than one chapter. So be flexible as rush week progresses. Everything works out in the end! xoxo ;)

for round two of recruitment (house tours) we are supposed to wear something "snappy casual" but I'm not really sure what that means, could you give me some examples of outfits? thank you!

Asked by
vinyarddimes

Lol. I love these creative descriptions for fashions. Since it’s not “business casual,” and it’s the 2nd day, I think they mean dressier than shorts & a tee shirt and not as fancy as an interview or dinner dress. That leaves ~

  • A nice sundress or shift dress.
  • A pretty blouse and “dressier” shorts
  • A nice top and an attractive skirt.

Think better styling than a pair of khaki shorts and a recruitment tee, but still relaxed. A “nice” casual instead. What you would wear to a poolside party at the club, or brunch with your family. 

These are some smaple styles that would be appropriate from LuLu’s:

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Patterned Sundress:

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Shift Dress:

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Snappy Casual Dress:

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Blouse & Dressy Lace Shorts:

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Skirt & Cute Top:

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With Snappy Casual you can still wear flats, sandals, or wear a little heel if you wish. But no sneakers or boat shoes. And no high heeled dress shoes. Save those for Pref Night. xoxo ;)

I've already filled out, submitted, and paid for my recruitment application, but I didn't attach a picture because I couldn't find any good ones😳 is that a big faux pas, or are the photos just a small extra for the sisters to identify recruits?

Asked by
gingerdempsey

IT’S VERY IMPORTANT!! Please submit one ASAP! The PNMs photos are used as reference for VOTING on PNMs. You must be identified during recruitment, in order to be considered for membership. Please make sure to follow all instructions for rush, since each piece of the process has a major effect on your chances for success. The chapters being able to identify you during their voting discussions is vitally important. 

Think of recruitment like an audition. You need a headshot for the people “selecting” you to look at, talk about your fine points and eventually keep you on their PNM list. Every PNM will have a photo and you must too. Your senior portrait would be ideal. Or any decent picture will work. You can even crop a photo to make it just you in the picture. 

If you can, have a friend take a fresh photograph of you outside in a pretty natural setting. You don’t need lights, or a fancy camera, to get a good shot in daylight. I have posted many examples of headshots for you to use as inspiration. I want you to be successful during recruitment, so please submit your photo soon and get your application completed! xoxo ;)

My many twists & turns sorority story:
Going into recruitment - which is held in the spring at my university - I was extremely confident that I would end up in my top choice. I was raised by sorority women and everyone in my whole family went greek. So it wasn’t even an option when it came to deciding if I was going to rush or not. I was a legacy to three sororities - Theta, DG, and Pi Phi - which are regarded at my school as three of the “top” sororities that PNMs tend to want, and I was sure that would make me really competitive. 
As I went through recruitment, of course I got asked back to a certain amount of rounds by my legacy chapters, but it soon became apparent that I was not the kind of girl they were looking for, or that they were the kind of chapters I would feel comfortable in. The most heartbreaking cut was Theta because that’s what my mom was. I had grown up with Theta values and learning all about her sorority. It felt a little like I had betrayed her, but I continued through recruitment with high hopes. 
By the time I reached preference round, I had two sororities left, one that I completely loved and another that I absolutely did not feel I was right for. After going to both rounds, I decided that I would rather be in no sorority than the one I didn’t feel comfortable in, so I suicided and ended up with NO sorority come bid day! I was extremely heartbroken but kept my hopes up for informal recruitment come fall. During that semester, though, the sorority that I had wanted during pref round got in trouble for alcohol and was kicked off campus for two years.
It was at the end of my freshman year that I learned that a new chapter of Tri Delta was coming to recolonize a very old chapter after getting kicked off five years previously. It took a while for me to decide whether to try for Tri Delta, or to wait and go through formal recruitment in the spring again. Eventually I decided  it wouldn’t hurt to go through the informal recruitment process. And after an interview with Nationals and a pref round, I received a bid to Delta Delta Delta! 
Now I see that I absolutely would not fit in as well anywhere else and my sisters are the coolest  girls I could ask for! We went through formal recruitment in the following spring and got an amazing new member class. What I learned from this is that no matter what happens during recruitment, everything happens for a reason. And while I wouldn’t recommend suiciding to anyone, it doesn’t always end up poorly. If I hadn’t suicided and pledged the sorority that was wrong for me ~ I would have had to wait until the next spring to rush and I wouldn’t have ended up in the amazing class I’m in now. Sometimes there are many twists and turns on the way to finding your ideal sisterhood! 
submitted by: Anon

My many twists & turns sorority story:

Going into recruitment - which is held in the spring at my university - I was extremely confident that I would end up in my top choice. I was raised by sorority women and everyone in my whole family went greek. So it wasn’t even an option when it came to deciding if I was going to rush or not. I was a legacy to three sororities - Theta, DG, and Pi Phi - which are regarded at my school as three of the “top” sororities that PNMs tend to want, and I was sure that would make me really competitive. 

As I went through recruitment, of course I got asked back to a certain amount of rounds by my legacy chapters, but it soon became apparent that I was not the kind of girl they were looking for, or that they were the kind of chapters I would feel comfortable in. The most heartbreaking cut was Theta because that’s what my mom was. I had grown up with Theta values and learning all about her sorority. It felt a little like I had betrayed her, but I continued through recruitment with high hopes. 

By the time I reached preference round, I had two sororities left, one that I completely loved and another that I absolutely did not feel I was right for. After going to both rounds, I decided that I would rather be in no sorority than the one I didn’t feel comfortable in, so I suicided and ended up with NO sorority come bid day! I was extremely heartbroken but kept my hopes up for informal recruitment come fall. During that semester, though, the sorority that I had wanted during pref round got in trouble for alcohol and was kicked off campus for two years.

It was at the end of my freshman year that I learned that a new chapter of Tri Delta was coming to recolonize a very old chapter after getting kicked off five years previously. It took a while for me to decide whether to try for Tri Delta, or to wait and go through formal recruitment in the spring again. Eventually I decided  it wouldn’t hurt to go through the informal recruitment process. And after an interview with Nationals and a pref round, I received a bid to Delta Delta Delta! 

Now I see that I absolutely would not fit in as well anywhere else and my sisters are the coolest  girls I could ask for! We went through formal recruitment in the following spring and got an amazing new member class. What I learned from this is that no matter what happens during recruitment, everything happens for a reason. And while I wouldn’t recommend suiciding to anyone, it doesn’t always end up poorly. If I hadn’t suicided and pledged the sorority that was wrong for me ~ I would have had to wait until the next spring to rush and I wouldn’t have ended up in the amazing class I’m in now. Sometimes there are many twists and turns on the way to finding your ideal sisterhood! 

submitted by: Anon

Hello! I was looking at the 100 things not to do during recruitment you posted and I saw you said not to wear heavy make up. I wear a full face of make up every day because it's what is most natural to me and what makes me feel most comfortable. I usually go for a natural eye look except for special occasions. Should I still tone it down for rush or keep it the way it is and make sure it is just extra flawless?

Asked by
potionsmastersandmeatpies

Good question! I was mainly referring to not wearing extra heavy “nighttime” make-up. Recruitment is not the time for super thick foundation, bold eyeliner, false eyelashes, dark eye shadow and other techniques you might apply when going clubbing late at night. Rush is a mostly daytime event. The look should be more “ladies luncheon” instead of bachelorette party. 

Wearing under eye concealer, medium foundation, translucent powder, blush, light brow shading, mascara, gentle eye liner, daytime eyeshadow and lipstick are all perfectly acceptable. I just recommend keeping the makeup daytime appropriate and don’t over do it. Look your best in the most natural way.

My favorite makeup is when you look fabulous, but the makeup itself is almost invisible. A “mask” of obvious cosmetics can be very off putting to sorority sisters when you’re speaking to them face to face. Don’t hide behind a heavy coat of colors. Severe makeup can be rather intimidating! As a PNM you’re not on a pageant stage, but up close and personal with chapter members. Every PNM should look her most beautiful, but also totally approachable! xoxo :)

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Hi! I'm super excited for recruitment in the fall and I'm starting to plan some of the outfits I'm going to wear. For the summer dress day, I wanted to wear my Lilly dress but I'm a little nervous that a bunch of other girls will be wearing the same dress or just other Lilly dresses in general. Should I opt for something a little more unique??

Asked by
hiitskamryn

Depending on where you rush, you probably will see other PNMs wearing Lilly. That’s not a bad thing! If it’s the style on your campus, you don’t have to avoid it just because it’s popular. Your #1 goal should be to look your best and feel comfortable. If you choose a dress just to be different, it may not be your top look. On the other hand if you select a dress that’s another brand AND super spectacular ~ then you will look fabulous. So pick your fashions based on what you love and look good in, not just the labels.

A variety of brands may be the best solution. Wear your Lilly sundress one day and other styles for the rest of the week. That will give you balance and the opportunity to shine in different looks. xoxo ;)