Q: I’m a founding member of a colony of a science and engineering sorority at my school, but a lot of the other girls treat this as a club. I even caught girls who were giving out information saying that we aren’t really a sorority. How can I make these girls that are holding us back get with the program?! It’s super frustrating and it seems like sisterhood means nothing to them. It’s made my twin want to drop and I don’t want to lose her.
A: the #1 thing you need to do ASAP is strengthen your RITUALS. what differentiates a sorority from a club are the unique traditions that emphasize the mystical bonds, special sisterhood and the importance of keeping these practices 100% confidential. the “secretive” nature of the rituals give added importance and meaning to your greek organization. without them, you are just a girl’s club. also important are the songs, poems, creed, history, stories, mascot, symbol, flowers, candlelight and everything else that makes a greek group one-of-a-kind! i am not an expert on science/engineering sororities ~ but i am assuming you have a full ritual program as a ‘greek’ organization!
your flaky members are not taking your creed and sorority standards seriously enough. they are breaking the code of honor which is expected of all greek members. if you have advisors and alumnae available, i would get them involved right away. before your colony falls apart, you need a heavy dose of loyalty rituals. your members should value the meaning and emotions behind your greek letters.
if you don’t have enough traditions to “hook” your new members into your chapter, it’s time to establish some! you could start with a chapter spring retreat after christmas break. you should add more sisterhood events, more weekly bonding sessions, more member recognition, etc… etc… launching a colony and making it stick is a BIG job! i just hope your organization has enough substance to keep members loyal and true.
make a list of all the things you think will attract and retain your members. even things like lawn letters, greek jewelry, paddles and tee shirts add to generating chapter love, pride and spirit! make sure you have ALL the sugar components you need to function properly on campus. being a founding member is a privilege and an honor. i hope you can light a fire in your sisters to see it that way!! xoxo ;)
Last weekend we welcomed sixteen dedicated young women into the sisterhood of Kappa Beta Gamma. Congratulations to the Beta class!
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I am a founding sister of my chapter. We've only been established for a little over a year. During recruitment we always get a good amount of girls but over the summer a bunch of them disaffiliate. Do you have any advice on how to get girls to stay? A lot of them say the money is too much but we can't really help that. Any suggestions would be great
i’m surprised that your new members stay throughout the year, then drop out during the summer! your #1 goal needs to be getting your sisters more attached and fully committed during the fall and spring semesters. that way they won’t even think of quitting. your new members are not ‘hooked in’ heart and soul. please increase your rituals, traditions, retreats, bonding, education and even your fun socials. your chapter has to be so meaningful, so exciting and so much a part of the member’s lives, that they value it above all else. they should want to work hard all summer to help pay their dues, not disaffiliate!
if a “good amount” of girls are leaving, your chapter is not giving them something they really want. i suggest your e-board takes a poll/survey of your membership and discover for sure what’s missing. people will pay for what they value highly. if your members say the money’s too much ~ that means they are not getting enough value for their dollars. find out what they want and meet your member’s needs. the sorority is not living up to their expectations in some way.
maybe you need better socials and mixers, maybe you need more sisterhood time, maybe the mission of your national organization is not being communicated affectively, maybe your sisterhood is unfriendly or snobbish…. something is amiss internally and it’s masked by the money excuse. discover what that issue is ~ and your chapter will be on the way to retaining a high number of members. xoxo ;)
HAPPY new members of Alpha Gamma Delta~Zeta Alpha Chapter (Eastern Michigan University)!
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i couldn’t agree more! although i still like pledges too. “new member” is just not sweet, loving or endearing in any way.
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Hello there! I am trying to think of some good New Member activities that I could incorporate into my New Member Education plans for the upcoming semester, and I have some, but I'm getting a little stuck with some meaningful ones. What would you suggest to enrich the New Member process and create a sense of trust and sisterhood between the New Members and the Active Sisters?
please check out the posts filed under: “ice-breaker” and “party” or “social”. there are party themes there, but you will also find lots of games/activities that are great for team building & getting to know one another better.
i think working on a project together is another way to bond. start a new tradition in your chapter that unites the new members & actives. for example, i really like the custom painted chapter chairs. in teams, actives can help the pledges to paint their future chair. incorporate sorority symbols and explain the meanings behind them. leave part of the chair unfinished to be completed after initiation.
or host a craft night where everyone decorates a special plaque or canvas for their rooms. assign teams of actives & new members to work on this unique project together. mix it up, so pledges get to know more girls in the chapter. award prizes for “most outrageous”, “messiest craft station”, “most creative”, “most artistically challenged”, etc… casual fun can translate to a tighter sisterhood too.
sister teamwork = stronger bonds!
thank you chi o connect for this good advice!
- Get involved. What you put in is what you’ll get out.
- Try to get to know your pledge class, you’re going to be together for the next four years.
- Take everything in. You’re going to be learning so much.
- Learn the symphony. Love the symphony. Live the symphony.
- Get crazy excited over Big Little Week!
- Enjoy every second of being an owl baby!
- Don’t be scared for initiation!
- Get excited to become a sister!