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I'm participating in sorority recruitment and I'm so excited! It's not until next week but I can't stop thinking about meeting possible new sisters and getting to know them :) I'm in a small college and my two roommates are sisters for theta phi and they are so excited as well! Everyone around me is so pumped and the energy is just incredible! I'm just wondering if once bidding is done if the energy dies down or if it's always so exciting and fun like this. Thanks!

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No….. it’s not always the high energy of recruitment. Rush week is a special time of year. Membership is still fun and interesting, but no one could keep up the fever pitch of formal recruitment year round. It would be exhausting. 

Enjoy every moment of the week ahead with all the decorations, chants, displays, speeches, etc… It’s a special time when all the PNMs will be treated extra well. The chapters work very hard to impress you and most PNMs feel like pampered guests at each sorority house. It’s a fantastic experience.

When bid day is over, you will need to adjust to the real world again. The high will be gone, but it should be replaced with a deeper kind of love. As you bond with your new sisters, go on retreats, attend meetings, volunteer together, etc… your feelings will grow. It’s the same as a boyfriend /girlfriend relationship. At first it’s all hearts, flowers and rainbows, then as you date longer your relationship should deepen into something more serious. It works the same way in a sisterhood! Lots of joy and excitement in the beginning, followed by closer friendships and more meaningful times spent together during the year. 

Then next year you can experience the thrill of formal recruitment all over again form the chapter side. Your greek “Christmas” comes once a year! xoxo :)

i received a bid for Pi Phi and there arent even words to describe how happy i am! thank you so so much for all your advice!! because of all your help I found my new home and have the sisters i've always wanted <3

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new member Q&A: reality vs fantasy greek life…

Q: So I went through rush a few weeks ago, got dropped by all my top picks, but decided to stick through it to see if I changed my mind about the chapters I had left. I took a bid from one sorority, and while I did make friends in it, I don’t feel like I love it quite yet and it’s already been a couple of weeks. I’m trying to decide if I should wait longer until it gets closer to initiation to see if I do start liking it more, or drop now. I know I can re-rush next year but I’m scared it’ll be a waste of time if I go through and still find myself getting houses I haven’t been crazy about. Any advice?

A: How right you are! There are NO guarantees if you drop out and rush again next year, that your second time around will be suddenly superior. Some PNMs get better grades, join other clubs, become more outgoing and make a serious effort to be more desirable the following year. But I get the feeling you were NOT an “undesirable” PNM, you just didn’t make the match you hoped for. Next year you will be older, more difficult to place in a pledge class and all the sororities will know you dropped your first chapter. Personally, I wouldn’t want to go through recruitment again as a PNM unless it was a matter of life or death. It’s a very stressful event and as a PNM you have little control over much of what happens. 

There’s an old saying ~ "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." Meaning, you have a perfectly good and decent “bird in your hand.” You’ve done it! A sweet sisterhood WANTED you when other chapters didn’t value you as highly. Do you wish to risk all that for the chance you might be invited to join a different sorority one day?  A sorority that already passed on you the first time? Please consider that love takes time to blossom, more than two weeks. And all it really takes for you to be happy is a few friends like you’ve already made! One or two nice sisters can make your entire experience rewarding.

I believe you just need to readjust your expectations to match reality after the ‘fantasy’ of rush week. When a new member comes back down to earth after bid day, it can be rather confusing. But please know that It’s perfectly normal to “like” your sorority, take awhile to make friends and worry about finding your niche. You don’t have to adore every aspect of your organization to have an amazing experience. Pick and choose what you do with your sorority. And relieve some of the pressure on yourself to be “in heaven.” 

I really hope you give it more time and more effort. You can make it work with the right attitude. You other alternatives of rushing again ~ or not being greek at all ~ are possible. But please don’t toss away a great opportunity with your current chapter unless it’s totally unbearable and a miserable mis-match. I honestly don’t think it is! xoxo :)

"Committing yourself is a way of finding out who you are." ~ Robert Terwilliger

"The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it’s not without doubt, but in spite of doubt." ~ Rollo May

Thank you so much for all the advice! I just got my bid today and I'm officially part of the Kappa Delta sisterhood! The first day, I was unsure about Kappa Delta, but they kept asking me back and I had a great time with them each day. It was so difficult to choose, but Kappa Delta started to grow onto me and I'm in love! Thank you for your blog, now I've found my home away from home. <3

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I am SO HAPPY when sorority sugar followers find their home away from home!! And cheers to you for giving a sorority TIME to blossom and grow in you during the week. ❤ CONGRATS on going KD!! 

I just wanted to thank you so much for helping with all of my Greek questions and concerns! Today I accepted my bid at ΣΣΣ and I couldn't be more happy! Your blog really helped prepare me for recruitment!

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♡ CONGRATS & thank you so much!! ♡ Enjoy your new sisters and make the most of your greek life!! xoxo ;)

inspirational & motivational quotes for new members ♥ part 1!

Q: I’m trying to find inspirational quotes for the pledges to give them before they continue on with the process. Do you have any suggestions for motivational poems or quotes?

A: Adding an inspiring quote to a note, poster, or craft is an excellent way to elevate a simple item into something special. These are some quotes for encouragement and positive thinking, that can be used for making new members feel better about their journey towards initiation. Also nice for other chapter motivational needs. Combine them with your sorority name, excerpts from your creed, or highlights from your mission statement to make them more sorority specific and customized. xoxo ;)


♥ Encouraging Quotes for Sorority Sisters: ♥

  • A true sister is a friend who listens with her heart.
  • Your diamonds are not in far distant mountains or in yonder seas; they are in your own backyard, if you but dig for them.
  • There is only one you for all time. Fearlessly be yourself.
  • Giving is the secret of abundance.
  • Every now and then bite off more than you can chew.
  • A sister’s love is infinite. 
  • Always remember: you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.
  • No one has ever achieved anything from the smallest to the greatest unless the dream was dreamed first.
  • Nothing can be done without hope or confidence.
  • Being happy never goes out of style.
  • Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.
  • A woman without her sister, is like a bird without wings.
  • What you get by achieving your goals is to as important as what you become by achieving your goals.
  • Commitment leads to action. Action brings your dream closer.
  • Here’s to nights that turned into mornings, with the friends who turned into family.
  • Do noble things, do not dream them all day long.
  • It is not what we say, but what we do, that leaves the lasting mark in the lives of others. 
  • It is wonderful how much may be done if we are always doing.
  • Leave something good in every day.
  • Oh, the places you’ll go!
  • Never let anyone dull your sparkle.
  • She didn’t know it couldn’t be done, so she went ahead and did it.
  • What really matters is what you do with what you have.
  • We weren’t sisters by birth, but we knew from the start… fate brought us together to be sisters by heart.
  • Just to be a ____ is a blessing.
  • A thing of beauty is a joy forever.
  • Laugh as much as you breathe, and love as long as you live.
  • Always hold your head up.
  • A cloudy day is no match for a sunny disposition.
  • Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.
  • Find out who you are and do it on purpose.
  • She turned her can’ts into cans & her dreams into plans.
  • Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.
  • A loving person lives in a loving world.
  • Sometimes being a sister is even better than being a princess.
  • Be Present, Be You. That is enough. Really it is.
  • Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.
  • I believe in rainbows and all of that.
  • Every day is a new beginning. Treat it that way. Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.
  • A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.
  • Keep your head, heels & standards high.
  • Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power & magic in it.
  • The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
  • Above all, be true to yourself.
  • A loyal sister is worth a thousand friends.
  • Be what you are. This is the first step towards becoming better than you are.
  • Each of us has a fire in our hearts for something. Your goal in life to find it and to keep it lit.
  • Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive
    who is Youer than You.
  • You have a masterpiece inside you. No one else can paint it. Only you.
  • Being a part of something special makes you special. 

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♥ So the quote posts don’t get to long, I will post them in several parts. Stay tuned for more inspirational sayings coming soon…. 

• Inspirational & Motivational Quotes for Sisters Part 2

sorority Q&A: is greek life right for me after all?

Q: I recently accepted a bid to an amazing chapter, however, I feel left out. I’m questioning whether I joined greek life for the wrong reasons. I’m not a partier and am super busy so I can’t hang out all the time. I feel like everyone is constantly with their potential bigs and other sisters. I just can’t decide of this is right for me and what to do. I’ve wanted to be in a sorority since my sophomore year of high school but now that I’m in, I don’t know anymore….

A: First of all, you can’t know with total certainty how your chapter life will work in the long run, within the span of a few weeks! You just pledged. It takes some time to adjust to being in a sorority, balancing your studies, scheduling your social life, etc… From reading our message, here are my thoughts ~ 

  • If you are "always busy and can’t hang out" who’s fault is it that you feel "left out?" Yours or the sorority? YOU have to make an effort to participate and be present. How else can you be part of the group, meet a future big and feel connected? 
  • What you put into a sorority is exactly what you get out of it. All the members have busy schedules, attend classes and have demanding homework. Some have part time jobs too. Whatever is keeping you away from your chapter is probably no different than most of the other students. They just manage their time more effectively. Reorganize your priorities in a more balanced way, and you can make greek life and your other interests work in harmony.
  • Your studies and everything else will get into a routine soon. You don’t need to jump ship from your new chapter, because the first month is challenging. If you drop out, and later change your mind, the road back as an older PNM is very difficult. Don’t throw away a lifetime of friendship, over a rocky adjustment period.
  • Participate at a high level now, and then you can back off later if needed. Getting established is the #1 priority. Once you find your ‘place’ within the sorority, get a big sister and finish your new member education, things get A LOT easier! This is the busiest semester of your first year as a sorority sister. You have years left to lay back and be less active if you wish. But right now is the time to go full tilt on securing your future family line and getting to know your fellow sisters. 

Please ask yourself these questions too………….

  • Would you stop dating an amazing guy after a few weeks because  you were busy with your classes or activites? Or would you make time for him?
  • Do you currently make time for things that you value, such as a weekend trip home, or sunday morning church services? 
  • Did you find a way in high school to be in clubs, play sports, get good grades and date someone all at the same time? Why can’t you do multiple things in college?
  • Do you think it’s better to sit back passively when you join a new group, or should put yourself “out there” to make friends and meet more people? Who’s responsible if you don’t attend chapter events and then feel left out?
  • Did you find a way to attend socials and parties in high school, even though you’re “not a partier?” Can you drink soda at a party and let other people drink alcohol if they want to? Do you know that it’s Ok to attend all kinds of greek parties and not drink a drop of booze? Hold a red solo cup with coca-cola inside and no one will even know! 

There are solutions to all of your worries with a fresh outlook! If you are DETERMINED to make sorority life important to you ~ it will work out. Hard work - yes. Less sleep for awhile - yes. Extra effort - yes. Flexibility required - yes. All worth it in the end - YES! The challenges of greek life don’t end at bid day, they’re just beginning. Step up and blossom with this new experience. You won’t regret it! xoxo ;) 

"Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it." ~ Lou Holtz

I am a new member and a junior. Most of the girls in my pledge class are meeting and hanging out with the sisters because it is almost time for big/little but I'm afraid none of the sisters will want me as a little since I am older than most of them. Is there anything I can do to make everything a little less awkward? I'm so excited to be a member of my sorority and I want the best possible experience.

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Big/little matches come in ALL ages! Most of the awkwardness is only in your head. It doesn’t have to be a “reality” unless you act that way. Put the age difference out of your mind. Your sorority offered you a bid, so they felt you fit in with your pledge class and the entire chapter. You have to get over your weird feeling about having a younger Big. If not, it might start to negatively effect the bonding with your sisters. 

You could have a sophomore, a junior, or a senior Big. It’s possible that your big sister will be your own age or even older. So don’t panic. And if she ends up being a sophomore, so what? Friends are friends. You need to act young, happy and enthusiastic about being a new member ~ no matter what. Push the nervousness aside and just ACT confident. The feelings will follow. Start making friends like the other new members are, so you too can make a wonderful big/little match. Don’t let the other girls snag all the good Bigs!

You are just as special and important as any freshman in your class. Don’t let your uncertainties and mind games stand in the way of a happy greek experience. Age is only what you make of it. Get out there and start connecting with more sisters today. You are in control of how you feel and how you act within your sorority. Take charge and enjoy your new member semester to the fullest! xoxo ;)

"I often feel that our greatest individual challenge is to close the gap between our unflattering self-concepts and the truth of our magnificence. To see ourselves through the eyes of those who love us." ~ Jeff Brown