I'm my chapter's sunshine/spirit chair! This is a new position at my chapter, so we're still trying to figure it all out...but we have started some cute ideas! Every week at chapter, we do a "dotting" ceremony in which each sister will write a compliment about that week's chosen sister. We also choose a sister of the week who has done something to help the chapter in this recent past. In addition to this, I'm in charge of birthday and social media posts and spreading cheer with the other greeks!
THANK YOU for sharing your “sunshine” ideas. we had a follower request for sunshine inspiration recently and i appreciate the ideas!! xoxo ;)
holiday gift giving can be stressful, especially on a college girl budget. but if you love your sisters and want to spoil them a little, here are some tips and hints for happy gifting!
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- be thoughtful: if you are seeing your family line in person, it’s best to have a gift for each of them. always error on the side of generosity, especially face to face. it would be hurtful to hand your big a present and have nothing for your gbig or twin sitting next to you.
- give at the appropriate level: keep your gifts at a reasonable price point. if you lavish a cashmere sweater to your closest sister and she gives you a painted pencil cup, it will make for a very awkward moment. “over-gifting” can make recipients feel bad instead of good. determine what’s the norm in your chapter and stick within that range. it’s ok to splurge a little, but keep it down to earth.
- buy in bulk: if you have a large family line to buy for, it’s ok to find one or two things to give all of them. for example, buying peppermint candles for each sister at a discount. or putting their favorite candy bars in each gift bag. then add a unique gift for each sister to compliment the group goodies.
- gift cards are great: gift cards used to be a cop-out, but now they are much more popular and acceptable. every store sells them (even on their websites), so you can really specialize to please each sister on your list. pick cards for products/services that mean something ~ not just a generic starbucks card. take the time to target your cards directly to each sister and your gifts will be a hit.
- be cautious of crafting costs: sometimes it seems cheaper to make a gift instead of buying one. but take into account purchasing all the expensive crafting supplies. sometimes this adds up to more than buying a present. if you can spread the supplies over several gifts, it will help. for example painting a canvas or plaque for each sister on your list. or painting glass ornaments with the same colors and glitter, but a different design for each girl. there is a way to customize and still use similar supplies.
- personalize your presents: whether you are making or buying gifts, adding a personal monogram or name takes an inexpensive item to the next level. that little extra touch turns a simple gift into a keepsake. make sure you allow time for personalization if you are buying gifts.
- go greek: focusing on your chapter flowers, symbols, mascot, greek letters and jewels makes your sister gift giving extra special. you don’t have to overdose on greek pride, but sharing your sorority sugar in a subtle way makes for the ideal christmas gift! hunt for charming gifts that reflect your sorority in a creative way, without shouting “big/little reveal.”
- do something together instead of gifts: ask your sisters if they would rather share an event, instead of giving gifts. for example, seeing a new movie together and splurging on dessert afterwards. or enjoying a dressy christmas tea at a fancy hotel. or how about a facial party at a nearby spa? if a trip off campus would be fun for all of you, arrange to share an experience instead of a gift exchange.
- sister secret santa: if everyone’s on a budget, host your own secret santa, with each sister in your family drawing a name and giving just one sister a gift (or series of small gifts). often times chapters organize secret santa exchanges, but they can work for family lines as well.
- make it funny: the best way to get around the cost of christmas gifts is to make them humorous! funny gifts are more about creativity than cash. some funny gift exchange ideas include ~
- tell your sisters no one can spend more than $1 on a gift. they must shop at a dollar store or thrift shop to find a present.
- host a tacky sweater exchange between sisters. everyone brings an average sized sweater to gift. these can be enjoyed later at the greek ugly christmas sweater party.
- organize a no-buy gift exchange where each girl must give an item she already owns, or re-gifts a present she recently received.
- plan a weird booze exchange. ask each sister to bring the most unusual liquor she can find. celebrate the season by making drinks with the obscure ingredients.
- theme your sister gifts. agree as a family that everyone will give the gift of music, or bath products, perfume, books, movies, sorority mascot, etc… by focusing on your sister’s favorite ___, it makes the gift giving easier. and it’s fun to see different interpretations of the theme.
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Eta Nu Chapter Phi retreat in Manhattan Beach, California!
submitted by: tannermylove
Q: I have just been installed with a new position in my sorority and I am now in charge of all things sisterhood! I am really excited, but I am also really nervous! What if I let everyone down? What if no one is happy with my events and plans to try to make chapter fun? I feel lost and scared! I have a few ideas of how to make things fun in chapter and with everyone but I’m afraid no one else will like my ideas! What should I do?
A: when you put yourself out there by holding office, you do run the risk of being criticized or failing in some way. but you can’t be paralyzed by self doubt!! i know you will do a fantastic job!
8 things you can do to avoid problems and feel more secure:
- know your chapter! don’t plan mani-pedi parties if your sisters like to play flag football. match your events to your audience. if you are unsure of what they like, take a quick poll at the next chapter meeting. it doesn’t hurt to ask for ideas, feedback and preferences. you can’t please everyone, but you can understand the overall personality of your sisterhood.
- get organized! you won’t let anyone down and you will feel more secure, if you immediately get yourself organized. note all important dates in your agenda, buy a sisterhood chair notebook, make a schedule, etc… whatever you need to do to launch your term in a structured way. this will greatly ease your tension. if you are scattered all over the place, your chances for messing up increase. give yourself a solid foundation before you tackle your first project.
- don’t try to please everyone! you CAN’T make every single member happy. don’t even try, or you will die of stress. please the majority and you will be successful. tune the naysayers out. their negativity will bring you down. developing a thick skin is usually a good idea.
- believe in your projects! if you love your fun and creative plans, then others will too. your spirit, enthusiasm and energy will be contagious. you must be the #1 cheerleader for your sisterhood events and the fire will catch. draw your sisters in with your pure joy for sister socializing.
- make it fun! first and foremost your sisters must think your ideas are enjoyable. that’s what sisterhood is all about. brainstorm ideas and collect inspiration until you come up with the best collection of events. by presenting A-list ideas, you reduce your chances for failure.
- study the past for success in the future! if you have access to past notebooks or chapter history, make sure you learn from your predecessors. it’s a mistake to not soak up the details of what’s been done before. this information can be your roadmap. if you want to make improvements, first you need to know what worked and what didn’t work before you came along.
- be receptive to input! don’t close yourself off from your fellow leaders. e-board members may also have great ideas too for sisterhood events. make sure you are not too proud or stubborn to hear them. it doesn’t matter where an excellent idea comes from. share yourself openly and welcome inspiration from your sisters.
- be strong & sure! if you are tentative and hesitant about your plans, it will turn everyone else off too. an effective leader is firm in her convictions and proud to serve her sorority. even if you don’t feel 100% confident inside ~ act like you do! not bull-headed, but competent, organized and bubbling with excitement about your special plans. if you lead with love, they will follow!
Initiation on PC 13 at AOII Upsilon, University of Washington!
submitted by: washingtongreekgirl
Hi sugar! I had a couple of questions regarding the sorority i'm rushing in the spring. It's a new chapter on campus and this spring will be its first recruitment. i'm a legacy of the sorority, so what does that mean for me? I know i'll get an automatic bid and everything... but does that carry on? as in, am I automatically a sister if I choose to be? I definitely want to be, i'm very passionate about being a member but I just want to be clear about what's required of me to join! thanks! :)
as a legacy, you do NOT get an automatic bid!! i’m glad you asked about it. even with a new colony, the organization still has a selection process and you must be voted in. legacy PNMs always receive extra careful consideration and preferred status while rushing, but there are no “free passes” to membership.
chapters love their alums and they place their family members at the top of the evaluation list. many chapters have a policy of inviting legacies back for a certain number of guaranteed rounds, but that’s about as far as it goes. being a legacy puts a spotlight on you, but then it’s up to you to connect with the sisters. there are no automatic bids given out in NPC sorority recruitment. otherwise the sororities would end up with a mish-mosh of all legacies with no concern for compatible lifestyles and clicking personalities.
so you should approach this spring rush as any other PNM. you still need to be on your toes and impress the members with your sparkling personality. you still need a strong GPA and a resume of leadership and involvement. please think about all the reasons you really want to be a XYZ member and prepare your conversation points. for a colony recruitment, you may be interviewing with alums, advisors and members from other chapters ~ which can be more daunting than just chatting with other students during a “regular” rush. i would also encourage you to brush up on your family history with the chapter, since you are sure to be asked about it.
be your BEST self, share your passion and i am sure you will be invited to join your legacy chapter. if you do receive a bid, you will then proceed through the new member education period with the other pledges. if you stay in good standing and you meet all the requirements, then you will be initiated several months later. as a legacy, it’s extra special for you, but you go through all the same steps as everyone else! xoxo ;)
Hello! So for my sorority, our PC (Programming Council) applications just came out today and I was interested in applying for Sunshine chair which is basically there to make the sorority thrive of happiness. I would be in charge of birthdays, national holidays, our book where we write nice things, and chapter dinners. I was wondering if you could give some ideas of other things we could do and cute things to make my sisters happy?? Thank you! And PS your blog is amazing! ZLAM
this would be a wonderful topic for a text post! i can put together a list of chapter happiness ideas………….
** FOLLOWERS: if you have favorite sunshine events in your chapter, please share!! it would be terrific to collect all the best ideas for one post. i will source your submissions of course! XOXO ;)