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Q: Next spring, my pledge class and I have to take littles (unless we want to wait until senior year) and I’m having trouble trying to comprehend that. I just recovered from an emotional roller-coaster and I’m scared if I get a little, we won’t connect. I see and hear about littles and bigs who no longer talk to each other and I don’t want that for her. Any advice?
A: NEXT spring is a loooong time away! I am sure you will have recovered from your emotional upset by then. Take the next year to get yourself mentally healthy and you will be all set for a new friend. You’re right, It is a good idea to be emotionally and personally balanced before you enter a close relationship, but no one is perfect! Sometimes we need to grow and open our hearts even when we are not 100% “fixed.” The warmth and comfort of a close sister can help mend the things which are broken inside. As long as you don’t use a little as a therapist or an emotional crutch, you should be fine. If you are friendly, generous, attentive and accepting you should have no problem venturing into a meaningful big/little match.
If you determined what you do based on other people’s failures or problems, then you would never get married because many couples get divorced, you would never have children, because some parents & children stop speaking, you would never travel because some people loose their luggage and get sick overseas, you would never have sex because some people contract STDs…. ETC! Lots of things can go wrong in life every step of the way! People change, friends and family disappoint. sh— happens, but that does not stop us from searching for connections and seeking loving relationships!
Your big/little pairing is what you make of it. If you set yourself up for failure it may come true. Don’t make yours a negative self-fulfilling prophecy. Enter into all of your sisterhood relationships with high hopes and the best intentions. Choose a little thoughtfully and make sure your bonding does not take a turn for the worse. You are the captain of your ship. Set sail for the best life possible! xoxo ;)
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