Q: I’m a member of a very small local sorority and I’m considering transferring to a university in VA about 1.5 hours from my current school. If I do, I’d love to start a new chapter there but as far as I can tell they only have NPC and NPHC, no local, and I’d just have no idea where to even begin! Any help is much appreciated!
A: if your organization and the ones you will be rushing have no problems with you joining, then you should go for it like any other PNM. i think you will have a “leg up” because you have already experienced greek life and know about being in a sorority. many greek traditions are not that different from chapter to chapter ~ council to council. the fear of the unknown in lessened because you have traveled down that path before.
you will begin like other PNMs by researching when they hold formal recruitment, applying and participating in rush. i would start visiting the panhellenic website and facebook page, visit the individual chapter pages and start getting acquainted with them online. attend information sessions and orientations. i think you will feel right at home and the entire process with be very familiar to you in a good way. goooood luck! xoxo ;)
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Q: I have a thing with my one of my guy friends and he’s wonderful. The problem is that he’s an EX of one of my sisters (who’s an alum, but still lives with the sorority). They were together for about 4 months and they’ve been broken up for a while too. She recently found out about our thing and now I guess she’s upset. I’m really happy with him but I don’t want her gossiping about me. What do i do?!
A: DO NOT DATE current or ex boyfriends of your sorority sisters!!! no exceptions. EVEN IF the couple only dated for 10 minutes. EVEN IF they haven’t seen or spoken to each other in over a year. EVEN IF the ex boyfriend has no problem with it (of course he doesn’t). EVEN IF you think he’s your future husband. EVEN IF your sorority sister hates him.
there is nothing more distasteful than a dude making his way through the sorority house. and there is no quicker way to loose friends and turn your name to mud than dating a former romantic interest of a sister. unless you want never ending pain, gossip, angst, heartache, upset and trauma ~ don’t go there. sisters before misters!
there are thousands of guys at your school. there are zillions of guys in the world. it’s not worth the misery and disrespect to hang out with this one particular fellow. you should never have been flirting with him in the first place. the feelings of your sister should take priority in this kind of situation. after graduation you can date anyone you wish, but when you are in a tight group like a sorority chapter, hands off the exes.
there’s probably one girl in a million who wouldn’t be bothered by this, but your sister isn’t one of them. and you don’t want to be anyone’s ‘sloppy seconds.’ i know it may be difficult to ease off this relationship, but my personal advice would be to not fish in this pond any longer! xoxo ;)
P.S. i guess i came on a little strong!! but if a sister is troubled by a sister dating an ex ~ i feel her pain. the sister in this case IS upset. thus the advice. after reading the replies, i agree if a sister has absolutely no problem with it, then the coast is clear. not all exes are the same. i just wouldn’t purposefully hurt a sister emotionally. it’s sometimes easier to avoid this difficulty in the first place by dating other guys…….. ;)