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So sadly I had to drop my sorority due to financial problems and my major being time consuming. The problem I am facing now that I have officially dropped is telling my amazing sorority fam who I love so much. Every time I'm around, all they can talk about is planning what we will do for my future little. I don't know how to tell them and I'm really worried they will cut me off like my other "sisters" did. How can I break it to them and also stay their unofficial "little"? HELP!

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I am soooo sorry you couldn’t find a way to stick it out at a minimal level! You DO need to tell your family line that you’re not a sister any more. The longer you hide the truth from them the worse it will be. It will be much kinder coming from you ~ than for them to hear about it at the next chapter meeting. Their plans for a new Little will change and many other things too. 

Once you break the bonds of your commitment, sisters usually do not stay as close. You are no longer in the organization which means so much to them. And you are (n a sense) leaving them. Even though you don’t feel that way, it’s a typical sister reaction when a member disaffiliates completely. In their eyes you have turned your back on them. I’m not saying that’s correct, it’s just a normal reaction to someone leaving any close group. It would be the same if you left your church membership for example. People bond in special organizations and when bonds are broken it hurts. 

I know it’s not easy, but you should look for new friends in the non-greek community as soon as possible. This will help your transition in many ways. By hanging out with students who have the same major, or other common interests, you fill find some valuable camaraderie. I know you are very short on time, but if there is any way for you to do just one small activity on campus it would help you adjust to your new direction. There are many adventures ahead for you outside of greek life. It’s time to look forward and not back. I wish you all the best in the years ahead! xoxo :)