I am going to be a freshman at the University of Alabama in the fall and I am definitely planning on rushing, but I am pretty nervous because I know it's a pretty competitive recruitment process. Is it ok to get letters of recommendation from current college students at other schools or should I only stick to college alums?
Some panhellenics require only alumnae letters and some accept both. You will want to double check the requirements at UA. Alum letters are probably taken a bit more seriously, but active letters count too if they are allowed. Either active or alums who have known you for awhile make the best letter writers because they can attest to your character, they have some personal history with you and they can advocate the strongest on your behalf. The closer the connection with the rec letter writer the better.
If you have a choice, prioritize with alums first, then actives, then “new contacts” if needed. You want to lead with your strongest and best options first. Not everyone knows a woman in each chapter, so enlisting the help of people you don’t know is sometimes necessary. But start with your friends, relatives and friends of friends first. Gooood luck with a fabulous greek experience at UA! ROLL TIDE! xoxo ;)
To the girl with the question about the Mizzou recruitment. If you know the woman writing you a rec, she usually knows where to send it. Also you should probably start asking around the beginning of the summer. That's about the time I started asking for mine! You register around the end of June, but it's only for like two weeks (if I remember right) so keep an eye out for it! And if you have any questions, you should call and ask the PHA exec, they would love to help you! Good luck!!
Lots of good advice! Thank you! xoxo ;)
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I wanted to respond to the collegian who has only 2 semesters of school left and wants to go through some kind of recruitment but fears its too late…
Some advice from an Advisor (and Alum):
I say it’s NEVER too late - being initiated as a collegian isn’t the only option for you. Our sorority, for example, does initiate woman who have already graduated - we literally call them Alumnae Initiates. In fact, some of our National leaders were not members in college. These sisters participate in the Alumna Chapters, not the collegian ones, and events such as Founders Day, etc. where Alum are invited.
It’s never too late to become the member of a sisterhood if it’s what you want, because it truly IS a lifelong commitment - not just 4 years. So - if you do decide to go through Recruitment but are worried of being cut - I would talk to the sisters and let them know how active you want to be even after graduation, and once that happens you can transition seamlessly into Alumna Sorority life. Good luck whatever you decide!
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Q: My first semester in college I rushed for a sorority and it didn’t work out. Now that I have learned more about the other sorority on campus I am sure that it is for me. Unfortunately my mom’s against it now. After this semester I will have only 2 semesters left. Should I rush or is it just “a waste of time and money” as my mom would say. How do I get my mom on board?
A: I am sorry that so much time has passed and you were unable to make a sorority match. And it sounds like there are a very limited number of chapters on your campus anyway. Usually I say “go for it” but if there is only 1 sorority to rush, you only have 2 semesters left and your mom is dead set against it ~ I think it may be a no for you this time. There is very little going in your favor at this late date. I wish you had rushed again after your first attempt, but if you didn’t have family support, I understand the difficulty.
Sorority membership is NOT a waste of time and money any more than a club, group, organization, church, sports team, political committee, charity board, or any other grouping of like-minded friends is a waste of time and dollars! If someone doesn’t join any groups, it makes it ten times more challenging to make connections and form bonds. You are left with neighbors, random classmates, co-workers and people you meet here and there. I believe seeking out similar types for closer friendships is very worthwhile.
Unfortunately joining sorority life may not be in the cards for you as a senior with extremely limited choices. You can always try recruitment ~ it may work out! I would never discourage any PNM from trying. But to be realistic, you may want to focus on other endeavors. You still have time to get involved on campus, take up a new hobby, join other clubs, etc… Just because going greek didn’t work out, doesn’t mean you can’t have a super active and involved college life. Expand your horizons, express yourself creatively and blossom in other areas! xoxo ;)
If you still want to try to talk your mom into going greek, I do have a post with lots of tips! Possibly it can help ~
Hi so last night I just found out my family and now I have a twin. We instantly clicked and I am super in love with my Big and twin already. I wanted to start crafting but I didn't know what to make for my twin to let her know that I'm not trying to take her place, and because I want to make my Big tons of things I don't want her to feel left out. HELP
Your primary relationship is with your Big. She would be the #1 person to craft for. It’s really thoughtful to think of your Twin as well and you are kind to not want to leave her out. But the twin relationship is not as “giftie” focused as big/little. It’s similar to giving your mom (or boyfriend) more gifts than a neighbor friend. You love them both, but you would favor your closer relationship a bit more. So the majority of your crafting should be for your big and some extra sugar for your twin is super nice too!
As for balancing your gift giving, it’s true that if you go way overboard and shower your big with an abundance of gifts ~ you will probably make your Twin feel uncomfortable. You don’t have to make “tons” of things for your Big. She should be spoiling you! If you dominate the family with an overabundant amount of crafting, it can cause strain and competition with your sisters. Think of it this way ~ you wouldn’t attend a party and bring 20 gifts for the hostess, when a simple bottle of wine or a bouquet of her favorite flowers would do. Excess extravagance makes other people feel awkward and makes you look like a show off. Bigs should give littles more gifts and you should be generous in return with an appropriate amount of sugar. Sometimes ‘less is more’ if your crafts are truly meaningful and sentimental.
When you have a little, then it’s your turn to ramp up the crafting and spoil her with extra goodies and treats. For now, keep things well balanced, fair and considerate with your Twin. Family peace means more than any crafting competition! xoxo ;)