Hi! I may be transferring to a university in the spring (I go to a community college now) & I want to rush! But I was told my top choice doesn't do spring rush. Should I wait till next fall? I'm just so anxious and I really want to rush ASAP! But I don't want to do spring recruitment & think "what if" for not waiting till fall. I want to give each chapter a chance but I don't want to wait. Thanks so much!
Your situation is a common dilemma for transfer students! Should you rush some of the chapters, or wait until they all participate? Because you are an older PNM, and you may end up loving a chapter that is recruiting in the spring, I vote for trying spring recruitment. It’s very possible that you will make a wonderful match. If you don’t click with any of the sororities, you don’t have to pledge. Drop before bid day, you will be free to rush again in the fall. But if you DO find a fabulous chapter, you can get started on your greek life. If I were you I would give spring recruitment a try and see what happens.
From the outside, it’s difficult to choose a favorite sorority. If you wait until fall, that still doesn’t mean you will receive a bid from your current top pick. There are no guarantees either way, so why not try in the spring? I say ~ seize the day and see what happens! xoxo ;)
"When nothing is sure, everything is possible." ~ Margaret Drabble
Hey so my big is going to be a senior in the fall and I was thinking about making her a few little crafts as a "happy senior year" basket. I'm just worried she won't hang them or find use for them as she never really hangs anything in her bedroom. It's not like she doesn't care, I just don't want to overwhelm her with even more crafts especially now that she is going to be graduating soon and moving out of school. So should I even bother crafting or would you suggest giving something else?
Gifts given to senior sisters should be a little different that what you would give a new member. Your big is leaving the chapter soon for the “real world” where she won’t display as many greek letters and sorority sugar. And she’s already not the displaying type!
For senior gift giving there are basically 2 ways to go. You can commemorate your time together by crafting a sentimental keepsake, or look forward to her needs after college and give her a future type gift. For example, a memento style gift could be a multiple photo picture frame/wall hanging of your years together. A future type gift might be a set of coasters and decorated wine glasses in your sorority colors for her new apartment.
When sisters leave college they may not display giant greek flags in their room, but they still have a soft spot for their sorority flower, colors and symbols. There is always a way to make your gifts sorority “special” without being over the top with the greek glitz. xoxo ;)
These are some posts I think you will find helpful for brainstorming gift or craft ideas:
I'm rushing in the fall and my mom also rushed at the same college but her sorority isn't there anymore does that still make me a legacy? Also after the first day to see if you got invited back will your rho gamma let you know? Also can you send the questions to ask during our interviews! That was really helpful
You are a legacy of your mom’s sorority, but you can’t use it if there is no chapter on your campus. If you planned to attend a college with a chapter of her sorority, then your legacy status would help.
Usually Rho Gammas hand out computer printed slips of paper with the list of chapters who have asked you back for the day. This happens the morning following your first round, and continues the rest of the week. Sometimes the invite lists are emailed to PNMs instead of being distributed in person.
I think these are the PNM questions you are looking for:
Q: I just got an email from panhellenic with the details for recruitment. PNMs have to be there at 7:45AM and don’t get released until midnight and then have to be back at 7:45 the next morning and we go until 10PM! There’s an hour and a half break around 2pm but that’s it! Do you have any tips for staying animated and happy throughout these long hours?!
A: Going until Midnight is a very long time! But the good news is, the days get shorter as the week goes by. You visit fewer and fewer sorority houses and it gets easier. The first couple of days are always the longest and the most exhausting. The sorority sisters are keeping even longer hours than the PNMs if it makes you feel any better.
The #1 thing that will keep you going: ADRENALINE!! Recruitment is so stressful and exciting, your adrenaline will be pumping. Every time you reach a sorority house, hear that chanting and clapping, your nerves will be on high alert and your heart will be pounding in your chest. Here are some tips to keep you going ~
♥ LONG HOURS PNM SURVIVAL TIPS: ♥
Drink water and stay hydrated.
Keep some protein bars, nuts, crackers, or dried fruit in your handbag for snacking between rounds. (Check your teeth afterwards.)
Eat breakfast before you arrive. Do not start the day on an empty growling stomach.
Eat a solid lunch. This is NOT a time to diet and become light headed from hunger. Eat dinner too when you can. You need fuel to make it through a 16 hour day.
Avoid too much caffeine - it will make you jittery when combined with your stress level.
Listen to music with your earphones during your down time.
Chat with the other PNMs in your group. If you are having a good time, it will keep you perked up.
Put your head down and nap briefly during your 1.5 hour break. But only a short cat nap. Any more than about 10-15 minutes and you will feel groggy. A few winks can be refreshing.
Run cold water on your wrists. This really helps when you are hot and tired.
On your break, take off your shoes and give your tired feet a much deserved rest.
Don’t drink alcohol. It may be tempting after 10 hours of recruitment, but it will make you tired and loopy for the nighttime rounds.. Booze and rush DO NOT mix.
Chat with your Rho Gamma/Gamma Chi. It’s a good idea to get to know her during rush.
On your break, watch a favorite TV show, play games, or browse your fave websites on your phone/iPad.
Don’t fight the schedule. If you are angry and frustrated from waiting around, or the long distances between sorority houses, you will feel worse than if you just surrender to the process. Accept the hours and just know you will have some very long days at the beginning of the week.
When you finally return to your room, don’t get wound up complaining to your boyfriend about the day’s events, don’t start watching a movie, don’t chat with your mom and don’t down a bottle of wine… Just go to sleep as soon as possible! When you are immersed in recruitment, there is NO time for the outside world. Your rest is more important than anything else to keep you strong and healthy all week.
I'm really embarrassed about asking this, but I withdrew from rush last year on preference night because I couldn't afford it (since I was paying for it myself). Now I'm rushing again (now that I've saved enough money) and am super excited! If a sister asks me why I dropped out of rush/ why it didn't work out, should I just be candid and say that it just wasn't a good time for me financially? Thanks for your help!
Nothing to be embarrassed about. I admire girls who work hard and pay for part or all of their sorority membership. It will help you value greek life even more.
Many PNMs leave their first recruitment for a variety of reasons. You probably won’t be asked about it a year later. But if you are, I think a broad positive statement is best. You can say lightly something like, "For several reasons I wasn’t able to join last year, but now I am super excited and committed to going greek!" That is the truth without getting into a long discussion about money issues. You always want to end on a “high note” about how thrilled you are now. The focus should be on what you want to do in the present, not about difficulties in the past. Highlight good news, not past problems.
Sororities want members who will be very reliable about paying their dues. If you start talking about your former financial problems, the sister you chat with may misunderstand and think you are a risk! People frequently hear things incorrectly. You don’t want her to describe you to the chapter as "The PNM who dropped out because she couldn’t pay the dues, now she thinks she can afford it, but I’m not really sure." See why it’s best to NOT bring up topics that could be misinterpreted? Don’t put a grey cloud over your head for any reason. How you handle your finances is your private business. No need to share TMI during your recruitment conversations. Stick to happy, enthusiastic, friendly talk filled with sunshine! That’s who you are TODAY! xoxo ;)
Q: My friends think i’m psyching myself out/trying to hard to get into a sorority because I’ve done tons of research and have been worrying about the right things to wear and such. Sometimes i feel like they are right. But i just want this so badly! What do you think?
A: Let me answer your concerns with a few questions of my own:
Would you prepare for a major sports competition by studying your team’s plays, researching the maneuvers of the other team, practicing your own game, wearing the proper equipment and attending team motivation sessions?
If you had a top college admissions interview would you research the campus in advance, prepare some intelligent questions about your field of interest, spend time reviewing the university website and wear your best outfit to the interview?
If you competed in beauty pageants, would you style your hair, apply attractive make-up, work out to keep fit, wear flattering fashions, learn to walk and talk correctly, study up on current events for the interviews and practice the skills needed to compete?
Would you practice your vocals before a singing competition, train for a marathon before you start running, learn how to ride a horse before you enter a rodeo, research a company before you interview with them for a big job? YOU GET THE IDEA!!
Whatever you want to do in life requires learning, knowledge, practice and dedicated effort. If you are going to compete for something you really want, it’s worth doing WELL. Things will not be handed to you on a silver platter. The other PNMs are doing all it takes to get into their top pick sorority. It’s perfectly OK for you to prepare also. To look and feel your best inside and out, you should spend some time on picking the right outfits, learning about the chapters and rehearsing your small talk.
Preparation is powerful. Knowledge makes you less nervous. The more you know, the more you will feel relaxed and in control. It’s the unknown that’s super scary and stressful. Of course don’t stress out to the point of making yourself sick. But a decent amount of prep is absolutely necessary for most PNMs. Don’t let your friends cause you to second guess yourself. Do what makes YOU feel the most secure. It’s your future greek life, not theirs. xoxo ;)
"Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now." ~ Alan Lakein
If there are 12 chapters on a campus, should I be worried I only got invited back to 4 chapters on the second day when I could have had 9?
Some PNMs narrow down quickly and some narrow down slowly. But either way, each girl can only join ONE chapter in the end. Bid day involves the same exact number for every new member ~ no matter ‘how’ she got there. Some girls go through most of rush with only one or two chapters, others have the max amount each round. There is no telling exactly “why.” So all you can do is “go with the flow” and make the most of the the hand you’ve been dealt. Give all your attention to the four chapters you have left and don’t worry about the hows and whys.
Rush week requires constant mental readjustments as sororities come and go each day. Some seem amazing and then they’re no longer an option. Others are slow to blossom, but they may suddenly impress you during the philanthropy round, or on Pref Night. The pacing is different for every sorority. Let your feelings develop based on meaningful things like how friendly the sisters are, and not just on how glitzy and flashy the sorority house looks. Think QUALITY ~ not QUANTITY when it comes to your invites each round. One stupendous sorority is all you need on bid day! xoxo :)
Hi! I'm not sure if you remember, but last fall I had messaged you about how I was upset about not getting into my first choice house. I figured I would give it a try, and I'm so glad I did! I met my best friend last year on Bid Night, and this year I was chosen to write & read a letter on preference night! I never thought I would feel at home with this chapter, now I can't imagine my life without these girls.
❤ THAT’S WHAT I’M TALKIN’ ABOUT!!!!!!!!!! ❤
THANK YOU for sharing your sorority success story! I hope every PNM reads it and takes it to heart!! ❤ XOXO
I transferred to a college that doesn't have my sorority, so if I transfer back to my old school do I have to rush again? How does that work?
NO you never have to rush again! If you are an initiated member in a sorority ~ you are a member for LIFE! You have to formally disaffiliate to become a non-member. If you transfer back to your original school, or attend another college, you can rejoin greek life right away!
It’s a good idea to select a school with your chapter, so you can continue sorority lovin’ as a student. Once your college days are over, the fun of being a sorority sister “on campus” ends forever. Alumnae life is nice, but nothing like your college years of living in the sorority house, being with your sisters and enjoying the sorority lifestyle from A to Z. xoxo ;)
PNMs please check out these excellent TIPS directly from a real life House Mom who knows first hand what’s what ~
So, you’re going through Sorority Recruitment in the next few weeks? No matter what anyone tells you, and no matter how frazzled you may feel leading up to it, you are embarking upon one of the greatest adventures of your life!
You are leaving your family, your friend group, your high school, and your hometown… and you are setting out to find a new family, a new home, and a sisterhood that will welcome you with open arms. With your new sisters by your side, you will feel love that you never knew that you needed, you will challenge yourself to live up to creeds and mottos that will become near and dear to your heart, and you will wonder how you ever lived without all of it.
♥ But before all of this happens, can I challenge you to do something?
Stop worrying about being the first person in your family to Go Greek.
Stop worrying about friends, boyfriends or family members that don’t understand or support your decision to become a member of a sorority.
Stop worrying that you won’t find a home because you don’t look or act like a stereotypic sorority girl. Sisterhood knows no particular size, shape, or shade of skin.
Instead of worrying, dare yourself to believe.
Believe that you will find a chapter that is a perfect fit.
Understand that finding a sorority that is a perfect fit isn’t necessarily going to be your #1 choice, or a chapter that is in the ‘top tier’. Many sorority women can tell you that they found happiness, love and acceptance in a chapter that was their 2nd or 3rd choice.
Be loyal. Be loyal to your sisters. Be loyal to your values.
Dare yourself to believe in the endless possibilities that lie ahead of you this year… and for the next four years!! <3
Hi! I've been wanting to join a sorority for 3 years now, but I go to a community college due to my low gpa in high school. So I can't do that right now. Next fall I plan on transferring to a university to get my degree, and I was going to rush. I don't know what to do for a year though? I get so jealous seeing all these girls online rushing and recruitment pictures. I just wanna rush already! Do you have any advice for me? Planning ahead tips ?
You CAN rush as a junior or senior transfer student. It’s not impossible to still find a sorority home. Your choices may be more limited, but you can find a wonderful sisterhood if you keep an open mind. While at your community college, make sure you get involved. Sometimes junior colleges don’t have as many extra curricular activites and clubs as a high school. All the students are commuters and there’s not a lot of school spirit. But you CAN find something to do on campus. Join at least one college club or special interest group.
You’ll also need to take the initiative and get active in community service. Explore the options in your hometown and see what you can get involved in. Volunteering with children, animals and the elderly are all popular causes in most towns. Food pantries, homeless shelters, health problems/diseases and military support are other areas which you should investigate. All of these charities need volunteers. Your church or religious organization is another source for participation. Work part time and expand your interests on the job as well.
You can also play on a community sports team, take exercise classes, take up a new hobby, join a singing group, start painting ~ whatever interests you! If you live a full life and you are growing personally, you will be totally ready for recruitment when the time comes. Live life to the fullest and it will make you an top PNM one day! xoxo ;)
"Each of us has a fire in our hearts for something. It’s our goal in life to find it and to keep it lit." ~ Mary Lou Retton
What would happen if I rushed a sorority at my current school then transfered to another school? I dont think this will happen but this may make me want to wait for spring recruitment
If the school you transfer to has the same sorority, then you can transfer your membership to the other chapter. If they don’t have your sorority, then you would be out of luck. You would need to go “early alum” or a similar inactive status (depending on chapter membership policies.) You can’t participate if the new school doesn’t have your organization. Ideally you transfer to a college with your sorority and there is no problem at all. Transfers are very common. xoxo ;)
I want To join a sorority... but I have No idea of wear To start, what To wear, when To start And I'M a senior In high school this year... please help!!! ~Much love, Allison
PLEASE visit the sorority sugarHOMEPAGE as soon as possible! On my top navigation bar you will find many helpful pages with tons of information about going greek. You can start with the Glossary of Terms and move onto the FAQ Page where I have links to all the information you are looking for. I have a section on ‘what to do in HS’ and plenty of other info for PNMs. The Recruitment Style Guide is handy for fashions.
Once you are registered for rush you will get lots of specific information from your Panhellenic on everything from what to wear to how recruitment works. But the sorority sugar posts will help you learn about sorority membership in general and give you a head start in preparing for for rush while you’re in high school.
Another source for finding helpful advice is the sorority sugar Pinterest Library “Sorority Girls Do It Better!” There I have title cards for all of my top “TIP” posts. Click on the titles for easy linking to my blog. And keep following sorority sugar for daily ideas, inspiration, advice and more!! xoxo ;)
Hey Elizabeth! Every school does recruitment a little bit differently, but I was wondering what exactly bid notifiers are used for? At my school, we are handed our official bid in a little white envelope by our rho gams, and we then go to the corresponding room with current sisters while most of the older girls do a mad dash to decorate all of our doors with welcome banners and signs! P.s. love the trippin' and sippin' background!
Notifiers are another super cute bit of sorority sugar that chapters use on bid day to welcome their new members. And one of my personal favorites! Most panhellenic’s distribute the bids just like your school does, then the PNMs run outside to meet their waiting chapter on a nearby grassy area/sports field. Or they run/walk to sorority row, take buses to the sorority houses. The sisters are waiting with the notifiers around their neck, or held on sticks, with each new member’s name on them.
They are crafted to match the bid day theme in shapes like footballs, anchors, sea creatures, sorority symbols, etc. They serve as a welcome souvenir, decoration and a name tag all at the same time. The new member’s “rush buddy” will have the honor of hugging her “rush crush,” welcome her to the chapter and give her the notifier for bid day photos. These chapters also have welcome signs, decorations, banners and more… Can’t have too much bid day SUGAR! xoxo ;)
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I'm a junior in high school and wish to join a sorority are these good activities? I'm doing summer softball, I'm a small group leader at church, I'm in Thespians, Collegiate program, a summer babysitter, and a teen leadership position at church.
ALL excellent activites! It doesn’t matter so much what you do, just that you do things you’re interested in. Sorority members have a wide variety of interests. There are no right or wrong extra curriculars. Do what interests you and motivates you to participate. PNMs can belong to the chemistry club, the hockey team, or be a beauty pageant contestant. Follow your passions and you will be 100% enthusiastic about your accomplishments. You are on the right track. xoxo ;)
First of all, your blog is so helpful! I'm an active sister in a local sorority in Canada. We will be holding informal recruitment in September, but an issue that we run into is that many girls at our school don't even know Greek life exists in Canada. Do you have any tips for recruiting girls who may have never considered going Greek? Thanks :)
Your greek community needs to come together to host more MEET THE GREEK type events where the #1 goal is getting to know more about greek life on campus. These events are held before rush week starts. All the chapters set up tables with large displays to show off all their chapter sugar. Everyone can hand out small promotional items like pens or candy with ‘go greek’ slogans. And they talk with the students about what sorority membership is all about. Holding this event in a central campus location is important to catch as many students as possible. This should happen one or two times a year. Offering food and drink is another way to attract attendees.
In addition, individual chapters can host tables such as free bagels and OJ, or cupcakes and cookies, as a publicity event. Hand out flyers about your sorority and greek life in general. Hopefully you have a Panhellenic Council which spearheads this type of marketing for all the sororities. If more education took place in advance of formal recruitment, you wouldn’t have to do so much educating during rounds. Information sharing and greek publicity is so important.
All the chapters should also maximize their social media. hold competitive events and fundraisers on campus, hang banners, use campus media and publications for publicity, etc! By having a bigger presence on campus, more students should know about greek life before they rush. They will be more encouraged to join a sorority because they see how fun and active it is.
Promoting sorority membership in Canada will take a unified effort from your Panhellenic and Greek Life office. If sororities and fraternities come together to market membership it will have the biggest impact. Recruitment is not just a twice a year event. Recruitment is a year round endeavor by displaying a positive example of greek life every day on campus. If many girls on your campus don’t know your sorority and other chapters exist ~ I strongly encourage you to step up your public relations and start this fall with an extra effort to get the word out! xoxo :)
I heard that sororities can rank PNMs by a point system based on their resume and how many activities they were involved in during high school. What would be a good number if activities?
A good number is whatever you are comfortable with, interested in and able to manage. If you spread yourself too thin, your grades will suffer. So doing what you are able is important. Sororities are looking for PNM who are active and involved in their school, community and other organizations like church and charities. They also are interested in seeing if a PNM has stepped up to leadership. ALL the same things college admissions offices are looking for. So if you are a desirable college applicant, you will also be an attractive PNM! You can kill two birds with one stone while in high school.
Your assortment of activites can include things like ~ one or two club memberships, student government involvement, one sports team, volunteer work, hobbies, tutoring, summer jobs, babysitting, etc… I would say a total of 5 to 10 things is about average when you count activites inside and outside of school. For example, a sample PNM activity list might look like this:
Junior and Senior Class president
Photography Club member
Editor School Yearbook
Academic Honor Club historian
Summer Camp Art Assistant
Volunteer at Ronald McDonald House
Church Youth Group vice president
Waitress part time at family-owned restaurant
If you are a lively person and a “joiner” ~ activities will come naturally to you. Your PNM resume should be authentic and honest, not a put-on just to get into a sorority. So start being your BEST self in high school and you will have nothing to worry about. xoxo ;)