i'm rushing as a sophomore and at my school, we have 5 sororities and i'm worried it's going to be super competitive to get into one. i didnt do formal recruitment last year (personal reasons) so i have no clue what to really expect. do you have tips on how to stand out (other than the classic "just be yourself" response)?
Lots of people talk about “standing out” during rush, but that’s not exactly how I look at it. You can stand out by wearing neon yellow. But the real goal is to “CONNECT” with the sisters who are the best match for you! You don’t need to stand out like a shining beacon. It’s much better to bond, laugh, feel close and genuinely be touched by the sorority sisters of your choice. Making quick friends and finding things in common is the romance of recruitment. That’s why you so frequently get the advice of “be yourself.” Only by showing your true personality, can you draw the “right” sisters to you. Connecting with a sisterhood should be as authentic as possible.
So for formal or informal recruitment your PNM role is the same… Offer all you have to give, offer your experience and interests, offer your sweet personality and at the same time look for your chapter “mate.” Recruitment is basically speed dating for girls! You will be romanced, you may cry, you will be moved, emotions run high and in the end hopefully the two forces come together in a greek match. xoxo ;)
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My university has been in the talk for awhile now of allowing Greek houses for the fraternities and sororities. I was wondering, how are the houses paid for and how to get the process started?
That’s a big project but good news if it happens. The process of either building a new house from scratch, or taking over an existing home would be coordinated between the local chapter, national HQ and the university housing department. There would probably be a “capital campaign” to raise funds and some money may come from national. Alumnae also get involved.
The first step would be to get your ducks in a row as a chapter and acquire all the information you need from your national HQ. Then your chapter leadership would meet with your college administration to explore the possibilities. Your chapter advisor can also help with this process. Fingers crossed that sorority and fraternity houses come to be a reality one day at your college! xoxo :)
I am a transfer student and plan on rushing in the fall. I got thrown into an apartment with 3 girls, I know at least one of them is in a sorority. What do I do about not talking to my roommate during rush? Are there exceptions?
I think in some cases, the sorority sister and the PNM temporarily stay in different places. It depends on how strict the Panhellenic is on your campus. You should NOT chat with your greek roommate during recruitment. You will need to avoid her and be totally neutral in any conversations you do have. If I were her, I would room at the sorority house for the week, or stay with other sisters. If you are under the same roof, don’t talk about rush at all! xoxo ;)
Hello! I'm thinking of possibly being in a sorority...I feel like in the north (I live in New York) the Greek life just isn't as popular of held in such high regards as in the south...I am very unsure and nervous about if sorority life is right for me.
THERE IS ONLY WAY TO TELL and it’s spelled R-E-C-R-U-I-T-M-E-N-T! No matter how much you read about being in a sorority, from the outside it’s extremely difficult to tell if you will fit in with the chapters on YOUR campus. All that matters are the specific sororities that you might join. If you participate in rush and find it’s not right for you ~ you can leave at any time. There is no obligation or pressure to join. It would be better to drop out before bid day, if you really don’t feel like you made a match. You might choose to rush again the next semester.
But if you live in the north and attend a northern school, the sister’s lifestyle should match your own. While they might not “go crazy” over sorority swag like southern girls do, they still have fun events, close sisterhoods, meaningful charity work and all the rest. It might just be in a style that suits you pretty well. If you rush at a southern school, then you will need to quickly adapt to a new outlook! But once you get the ‘greek fever’ ~ it’s very easy to do. Don’t let your being from NY hold you back in any way. North, South, East, or West ~ sorority life is the BEST! xoxo :)
"Where the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be great." ~ Niccolo Machiavelli
How should I accessorize a tshirt? The first two nights of rush we're required to wear the same tshirt and it's recommend to wear shorts but I don't know what to put with the outfit! Thanks <3
If you have a classic, simple necklace, then you can wear it. But don’t go overboard on the accessories for the tee shirt days. The whole point of matching casual outfits, is for the sorority sisters to focus on YOU and not your flashy jewelry.
Stud earrings (pearl/diamond/gold/silver) look good with a tee shirt. Maximum, I would pick 2 pieces to wear. Stud earrings or small hoops and a delicate bracelet for example. Or, simple earrings and an understated necklace. But you don’t need rings, bracelets, a necklace, and earrings all at once with a Panhel tee!
Save the bright statement necklace for the rounds when you wear a dress. And save your fanciest jewels for Pref Night. xoxo ;)
I'm probably going to sound pretty odd for asking this, but it's not that big of a deal. But anyway, rush is about three weeks away and I'm trying to get my clothes together to pack away for school and I realized that for day 2 of rush I have to wear clothes that are business casual. I'm not exactly sure what it means to dress business casual and I'm pretty sure that I don't own anything that would fall into that category. Could you explain what it is and give me some affordable pointers?
Similar to the last rushwear question ~ the “middle” category of dressing it fancier than super casual and not as dressy at semi-formal or cocktail wear. Your campus wants a more interview style look I think, by calling it “business casual.” This can mean a dress, or a skirt & blouse. But not shorts and not an evening look. This style could be worn to a ladies club meeting , a convention, a fashion show, or dinner at a nice restaurant. It’s not a bare sundress. You could even wear sleeves if you want.
Hi, I was wondering if you could help me a bit with rush wear. At my school we have two sundress days, a day for formal dresses, and a day in between that I'm confused about. People have just said that day should be more formal than a sundress but not formal. Do you have any ideas about that? I've seen some pictures but the ones from that day look pretty much the same as the sundress days and I've heard "Sunday best" for some other schools but around here girls just wear sundresses to Church.
Well that’s a little confusing! It sounds like one day is a casual cotton sundress and the other day is dressier frock, but not as fancy as a cocktail or formal dress. You need a “nicer” summer style dress! That is usually how rush progresses. Panhellenic’s just call them different things. Yesterday a follower was asking about “snappy casual,” which is similar to what you’re looking for.
There is a rush dress “category” that stands between the super casual sundress and the elegant Pref Night dress. Some colleges go for more of a business/interview type look. But your recruitment seems to be requesting a garden party, ladies luncheon, daytime reception look.
You can wear a cotton sundress the first day, then wear a summer chiffon, lace, or sateen fabric dress the next round. Still relaxed, but elevated. FABRIC choice is what separates the levels of dressiness. The same style can look totally different in 100% cotton, chiffon, or taffeta! Raw silk is a beautiful choice for preference night because it makes even a simple A-line dress look elegant. xoxo ;)
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I'm looking at dresses for recruitment, and I'm seeing a lot of dresses that are tank tops! I was wondering if it would be okay to not wear anything over dresses like that! I'm worried that if I do wear anything over it, I'll get hot and end up taking it off and have to carry it with me all through rounds.
During a hot weather recruitment, I highly recommend you don’t layer. Like you said, there’s need to lug a cardigan or shirt around all day. It will probably be quite hot. So keep it simple and wear a sundress, a tank dress, a shift, a tunic ~ but skip the layering. Too fussy and not necessary for an August/September rush. Your insticts are orrect! xoxo :)