So I'm graduating high school in May and rushing in the fall. In high school, I did this program called dual enrollment which allowed me to take college classes at a college so I'll already have a bunch of credits and a college GPA before rush even starts. Will they classify me as a sophomore even though I'm rushing as a first year in college student? And will they look at my high school or college GPA or both? My college GPA is 3.4/3.5 (HS 4.1) are these considered "solid GPA's" to rush with?
For recruitment you will be classified as the college views you. If you enter as a freshman according to the university, then you will rush as a freshman as well. Sororities will go by whatever your official college grade level is. They will consider ALL of your academics and combined GPAs. The same goes for transfer students who have a mixed bag of grades from different sources. PNMs should share their all of their academic achievements on their recruitment applications.
Your specific GPA is rock solid and well above the minimum for recruitment. You will have no troubles in that department! xoxo ;)
Is it a thing to lavaliere your girlfriend if you are lesbians? I think I'm hitting that point with my girl but I didn't know if that was a thing?
Yes! I have heard from my followers that other sisters have done a lavaliering and it was supported by their chapter. It’s always nice to honor a special someone with a lavalier (or other keepsake greek jewelry) and participate in the ceremony that goes along with it. Talk with your chapter and see what their traditions are for such an occasion and go for it! xoxo ;)
Hi I'm going into college as a freshman next year and rushing, I'm confused on how letters of rec work? My mom was a KD and the school I'm going to has a chapter, should she write a letter of rec even if my school isn't that competitive for rush, and should she send it to all sororities or just KD? And where does she send them-help!!
First of all, you are a legacy of KD since your mom was a member. You will want to highlight this on your recruitment application. It stands out as a special distinction above and beyond any rec letter writing. She can also write a recommendation letter, but your legacy status will already be established.
To answer your other questions, here is how rec letters work overall:
An alum/active writes ONLY to her chapter counterpart on your university campus. Letters are not shared amongst chapters. They only go from member to the specific sorority chapter. Some submit letters electronically online and others are mailed. For example, KDs only write to KD and DZs only write to DZ.
The Panhellenic Council should publish a Recruitment Handbook, or some sort of guide, which will include the contact names and mailing addresses for all the sorority houses accepting letters. After the PNM are registered and the chapters are organized to receive the letters, this information will be announced. Then the process can begin.
Keep your eye out for recruitment information and announcements. If you don’t see rec letter details, you can contact the panhellenic organizers and ask about it. Possibly your school doesn’t even require letters, not all colleges do. And be patient, it’s still a little early for everything to be in place for fall rush. xoxo ;)
I just went thru recruitment this semester and my big graduates in May. She's going thru order in a couple of weeks and I have no idea what to get her & she says she doesn't want anything. What do I do?
When someone says they don’t want anything, they don’t really mean in deep down. Everyone likes to be remembered and celebrated on special occasions ~ despite their protests. You don’t have to go overboard, but a sweet crafted gift, your sorority flower and a thoughtful card would be very appropriate. You could make a commemorative paddle, plaque, pin box, picture frame, pillow, etc. Or order a personalized piece of sorority jewelry, custom big/little photo mug, a ‘nicer’ glass with your sorority crest, etc. There are so many options for crafts and/or custom sorority gifts. Pick something that is more like a ‘keepsake’ than just another tee shirt, add a few frills and you will be all set.
For more senior gift ideas, please visit my FAQ page and also my Shopping Links page for a master list of greek websites! xoxo ;)
sorority Q&A: planning for 4 years in the future...
Q: As an Early Childhood Ed major, my last semester will be spent doing Student Teaching. In order to save money, my parents are making me do it from home and won’t let me travel the two hours each way from home twice a week just for chapter and study tables. Is there any way that I can become an “alum” early by a semester? I am only a freshman and I don’t wanna be in a sorority just to have to quit for my last semester of school. Would it be better to quit now?
A: If you are only a freshman and trying to plan for your last semester as a Senior, there is NO WAY you can predict where you will be so far down the road! Please don’t drop your sorority over the possibility of problems that may never develop. In the next four years these things could happen and much more:
You could change your major completely.
Your parents could move to a totally new city.
You could transfer universities.
You could get married and leave college.
Your entire family structure could change.
Just to name a few life altering events that could take place and completely mix up your current plans. Cross the Student Teaching bridge when you get to it. Maintain your sorority membership and enjoy every minute. If you need an adjustment in membership status in the future, I’m sure your chapter will work with you. One semester will not ruin your entire collegiate record. It’s wise to plan, but don’f forfeit happiness today for an unlikely conflict that should be resolved easily when the time comes. xoxo ;)
"Don’t worry about the past and don’t try to solve the future." ~ Garrison Keillor
I am rushing this fall at school with a moderately big Greek system. I have been a part of a few school clubs, like my school's literary magazine and my school's huge charity committee that is known all across my state. I have mostly worked throughout high school, my current job being a receptionist at a hair salon which is a HUGE responsibility. The only problem is my grades; I am making straight A's, but I'll be lucky to get a 3.0 GPA by graduation. Will this affect my PNM "worthiness" much?
Your PNM ‘worthiness’ sounds ideal to me! You have a wonderful balance between real world experience, academics and school activities. Your GPA should also be perfectly fine for most chapters. The minimum for rush is usually 2.5 and you are well above that. Keep doing interesting things this summer and you will be in an excellent position to rush next fall. xoxo ;)
Hi! I'm a junior in high school and really want to go greek in college. Most of the schools I'm looking at are in the south, but I'm from Connecticut. Will I have issues getting into a sorority? I've heard that it can be difficult for someone from the North to get into a southern sorority. Thanks!
It ALL depends on your attitude and your lifestyle. I know lots of girls from Connecticut who attend school in Virginia and fit in perfectly. The east coast can be very similar north to south. Making a match all depends on your outlook, your interests, your viewpoint and how well you “mesh” with the southern style on your new campus. If you enjoy/welcome what they like to do, and respect your new environment, you should have no problems. But if you look down on the southern sisters, then you will run into trouble.
It’s all about fitting in and feeling a part of the “scene”. If for example, all the greeks on campus love to tailgate and attend football games and you don’t like that type of thing and refuse to go, you will have a problem in the south. If you criticize the food & drink served at parties, or you don’t like the dresses the girls wear, and you are loud about it ~ you will probably run into problems. Instead, if you embrace your new culture, listen to their music, have fun and connect with the sisters through your charming personality ~ you will fit in just fine. WHEN IN ROME is the wisest advice I can give on a northerner wanting to go greek in the south! xoxo ;)
"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes." ~ Hugh Downs
Hey! So I just joined a sorority and we're in the process of ranking bigs and it's so exciting! I'm a sophomore, And a girl I really like and connect with is a senior. I'm just not sure how I feel about her graduating so soon after becoming big and little. Any advice about age gaps between littles and bigs?
It would be better to have a Senior Big that you love and adore ~ than a younger Big that you don’t really get along with. Better to be matched with any sister that you’re crazy about, no matter her age. Please pick quality and compatibility over grade level. Senior bigs can still work out when the match is made in heaven!! xoxo ;)